What is up with that “perfect mom” image we all try to maintain? You know what I mean? The only image we allow to show through on our social media; where we share all of our wonderful Mommy moments, but rarely the awful ones. We make sure that EVERY picture we post is hiding any affects of motherhood with filters, makeup and perfect angles.
Or what about that persona we wear when we take our kids anywhere, praying that they won’t rat us out! We have our lists, we have our snacks…we are in complete control! I sometimes look at that mom and think,
Are you always this wonderful? Do you always look that good?
But then, I see it in your face fellow-mom, when your child is screaming in the middle of the checkout line; (we control NOTHING!) I see the horror in your eyes as you try too keep that image up. I hear your thoughts, because I’ve thought them too…
Don’t let every one see you lose it!
Just five more minutes until I make it to the car.
Oh my God kid! Shut. Up!
But let’s be real here,
I gave up on that “super-mom” persona about three kids ago! It’s just too hard too keep up with! Yes I’m still horrified when my child starts screaming or sassing me in the middle of the grocery store and I end up dragging them out kicking and screaming; But I’m a mom of five kids so I’m not kidding anyone!
And I don’t want all the new mommas out there thinking they need to keep up with my “perfect mommy” image, because it’s not reality. So, let’s just throw that image out the window shall we? Let me tell you what it’s like to be a mom… a real mom.
It’s confession time!
I just let my 3-year-old eat four packs of fruit snacks for breakfast because I wasn’t paying attention! She just kept bringing them to me and I was all like:
Oh another one? Ok sure!
The other day, I let my daughter get on the bus with her shoes half on. I laughed as I watched her try to run!
I have screamed at my kids… like really screamed at them. I mean crazy mom, I’m trying not to hurt you moments, that would scare the crap out of a grown man! (No one believes this of me but it’s totally true!) Unfortunately, I have a few offspring that apparently take this as a challenge….😡
I let my children eat sugar, and I sometimes let them drink coffee.
Some days, I look at all the stuff that needs to be done in my house and I read a book instead. Seriously a whole novel…in one day!
(Come on, don’t look at me like that! Not every day people!)
I have left my kids in their own pee when they woke me up at 3 in the morning. If they don’t care, then neither do I! (I’m going to have to clean them up in the morning anyway!)
I’ve lost my kids in the grocery store more than once…I can hear them calling me but where the heck are they?!?!
Sometimes bed time is precious and beautiful; full of hugs, kisses and heartfelt prayers. Other times… it’s full of fights, crying and me finally saying:
Just watch tv and go to sleep already!!
I have been so tired that I’ve completely forgotten where I was going! I was just driving along and suddenly….
Wait! Where am I going right now??
School? Church? The store?
I’m totally confused!
I’m tired most of the time. You think that’s going to end once your children are out of the baby stage, but it doesn’t! I just got woken up three times last night! (Not to mention our stupid cat who sits outside my door crying because she’s lonely. This is why I don’t really care for animals, I have enough children to deal with thank you!)
I don’t keep every drawing and hand written sentiment, but it makes me a little sad every time I throw one away.
I have left clothes in the washer for days! (I’m sorry but every mother does this!)
Speaking of laundry… I don’t often fold socks, they just end up in a basket somewhere! Fend for yourselves my family!
Sometimes I don’t mop my floors for weeks! 🙈Sweep, yes! Mop…maybe later!
(Even now, I am worrying about what you think of me! But I started this, so there’s no point in stopping now!)
When everyone is asleep, I still check to see if my kids are breathing; even though they are WAY past the SIDS phase! My oldest is 11 and I even check on him sometimes.
Today was the first time in this school year that I’ve actually remembered it was Micahs day to bring snack. Seriously I NEVER remember! I’m sorry to those poor hungry children in his class that probably go snackless every time our turn rolls around.
I cook the same meals over and over because they are the only ones my kids will eat. And when they don’t eat it this is me…
Sometimes quite literally! I’m pretty sure I’ve used those exact words. 😬
I’ve also said:
I’m not going to ask again!!!
This is your last chance!
I’m going to beat you!
Are you kidding me??!!
Why do you do this to me?!
I can’t do this!
I’m done with you!
Well, let’s just say I’ve said them much more than I would like to admit.
(One time I asked my daughter, Why do you always ruin everything?? I cried after…a lot, and I made sure she knew that she most definitely does NOT ruin everything! And as a very important side note: you really DO have to watch what you say! Once those word leave your mouth, you can’t take them back.)
Some days, I cringe when my kids want to sit with to me. Other days….
WHY DON’T YOU LOVE ME ANYMORE????
I miss my “before-baby-body”, I really do. I know, “Love your curves”, “You are strong” and all those lines we give, but come on! I was so skinny!
The only reason I’m not skinnier than I am, is because after cooking for every one else cooking for me seems like way too much work! I always end up eating the chicken nuggets or a cookie, because well, who doesn’t want to eat cookies?? Lets see, healthy choice? Or chocolate?
Cue kid freaking out……..Chocolate it is then!
And let’s talk about what it’s like to bake with your children. You know those pictures you see of the children baking with their mom? Every one is smiling, and everything looks perfect. You think, oh yes I can do that, it will be such a great memory!
HA! That’s a load of crap right there! Maybe if there is only one of them, but if you have more than one, this is what it looks like….
“NO it’s my turn!”
“No you got to put in the sugar, it’s MY turn!”
Flour all over the floor, egg shells in the batter, butter smeared on the walls, lots of shoving and crying until finally mommy says,
NEVERMIND! Just let me do it!
But hey, we’re making memories!!!
Listen, it’s not all like this; I have had some great “super-mom” days and I know that I’m a good mother, but we can’t be good all the time! I’ve had people tell me, “You are so calm and put together!” But on the inside I cringe because that’s just not always true!
And some days I even wonder….
Can I do anything besides this anymore??
Taking care of babies has been such a huge part of me for the past 11 years, It feels like my brain has been rewired. Almost like if it doesn’t have to do with raising kids my brain threw it out a long time ago! It’s like that episode of sponge bob….
Seriously, sometimes I even forget my own name!
But like I said, not all days are hard, many of them are wonderful! And I wouldn’t trade any of the bad days for all the good days in the world. Because if there were no bad days, it wouldn’t be real. Parenting is messy, hard, beautiful, wonderful, rewarding and tiring. But mostly….it’s just messy! 😉
Ok, I’m done confessing! Your turn!